Ok so would someone like to tell me where it says in the “Manual of Life” if you’re overweight you only want sex?  I know that the internet is not the best place to meet “quality” guys, however, I met my last guy there and he wasn’t only looking for sex.  Just because I’m overweight does not mean I have no self-worth or that I want nor am interested in any of the following:

Just Sex (when and if it’s right it happens – also if this was all I was interested in guess what any guy in any bar in america hot, popular or not would do me if I presented myself – that’s just the majority of your race, if a girl offers sex “no strings attached” most guys would take it -sorry but that’s the truth)

A Crazy Stalker (if I don’t reply to your IM’s I’m obviously not interested for one reason or the next)

Only interested in guys who “suit” me (this was actually said to me by someone who would be considered “Good Looking” by society standards – read you should only go after not such hot guys because I’m to good for you).

YES, I know I’m overweight (fat by a lot of standards), but there are two things to this – one I’m working on my weight, I have a goal to be where I was about 8 years ago, which trust me is far from where I am now. I am actively working to change my body. Two – I am still a person with feelings. Take 5 minutes to get to know me you’d learn a little about me and maybe about yourself. While I understand physical attraction must play into any relationship, it can’t and shouldn’t be the basis of the entire relationship! If I read one more online profile about “looking for a girl I can be myself with, someone who wants to be in a real relationship and realizes that there is more to life then looks”, then am flat out told by some that there is no chance because of my looks, I might just scream! Wake up guys…you’re not the hottest one out there either, but I’m making the effort to not be as shallow as I’d like. I mean really – do you think being a 35+ who’s “almost done with a major career change” – read I’m almost 40 with thousands of dollars in student loans, most likely – makes you 100% appealing – NO – however, if I read past that and look past your not so attractive “but I think I look so good” picture, I realize that you’re just a normal person like anyone else looking to find someone special.

ALL I WANT IS TO DATE…I’m NOT looking to get married ASAP – that’s a road I will tread very lightly on when and if that time ever comes, I’ve headed toward that marriage road and had my heart broken. That doesn’t mean I’m carrying a ton of old relationship baggage either, just that I realize that marriage isn’t the “make all end all” of the relationship and that you can have a great relationship together and not travel that path together at all.